A little over a year ago, I wrote a post about letting my husband lead in marriage. I'll have to admit, making this choice to let him lead, to trust my husband through God has been challenging because being the oldest and used to leading, I can definitely say that a year plus later, that God has definitely blessed our marriage.
We're still learning a great deal, but my husband trusts and has greater confidence in me, as I him. Learning to listen much better. Early on when I committed this to the Lord, it was so challenging and not that it's not now, but there were even times I had to go to my pastor and Life Group leader for help.
God did so many incredible, amazing things to bring my husband and I together more, even using my parents and though some of it was not the route I was wanting, I could see God's hand in all this. There were many times I could not see how God was working, but just because you cannot see, does not mean God is not working.
One of the things in leading in our marriage was to trust my husband to lead in our family with our kids. Up until our kids, he did not have any kids in his prior marriage, nor had he been around kids much. The kids, especially our daughter greatly challenged him. We had to come together as a team to parent, letting him lead. And though he had never been a parent, he knew that paying attention and consistency were very important, which I was lacking.
Parents must come together in child rearing. The lack of unity brings inconsistency and a divided family. I'll have to admit, I don't always agree with my husband, but as I submit and allow him to lead, being supportive, our children see that unity and we have gained better cooperation from them and are a more unified and overall happier family.
One of the things my parents did that was really fantastic was they really forced all of us 5 kids to come together and that is one of the things we make our kids do. As adults, my siblings and I do have our differences, but we are all together, no one estranged. Maybe when we were young, we didn't appreciate it, but now almost all of us in our 40s with families of our own, we see the benefits.
Praise God!!!
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